I think about possible accidents that could happen, even kidnapping. Hang in there mama. I’m just hoping and wishing that this will all somehow pass. i must sound stupid but i just can’t face it, just the mere though ruins me. Please let me know if you find solution to all this. (Provided nothing awful happens to me in the process!). Susan– I lost my mom just after I turned 24. Thank you, Heather, as tears flow. Anxiety can both cause and contribute to a variety of fears. Thank u so much to the author and all the wonderful people who have commented. night. I am afraid of death and the death of my loved ones but everyone is. I have none of those feelings which is a good thing, but I cant handle these fears anymore. I also have thoughts of him or my other sons getting killed in a car accident. I thought I was the only one! It would be good for you to consider getting professional help if that’s an option for you. I can look at newborn pictures and just cry for a good hour. I am 64, soon to be 65. In the grand scheme of things, perhaps it’s worth the trade. It has especially been happening with my boyfriend, of almost a year now, lately. When my mom goes out i call her thousands of time just to check if she is allright. While writing a book about how other cultures navigate death anxiety, I visited seven festivals for the dead — in Mexico, Nepal, Sicily, Thailand, Madagascar, Japan and Indonesia, with a stopover in the US to interview Californian life-extensionists and New-Orleanian ghost hunters. Let it go, and treat the thought of it like you are thinking about the most boring thing in the world. I also chech electric housholds in case of fire. I wept like a baby reading about how much love you have for your babies. I would obsessively think about the past and how I longed to re-live those years. Baby Blues: Feelings of sadness, fear, anger, or anxiety occurring about 3 days after childbirth and usually ending within 1 to 2 weeks. Its rediculous and I cant live my life with this constant fear because it is taking over every aspect of my life. SO hard to control these thoughts, to label them and try to see them as obsessive and intrusive and not reality based. I have the same fears you all mention. It is not weakness. Oh by the way my names Rachel Iam 25 years old and my baby is 16 months. Postpartum anxiety is characterized as excessive, uncontrollable, and irrational anxiety in the months after giving birth. Postpartum depression is usually accompanied by mood swings, difficulty bonding with your baby, fatigue, irritability, feelings of worthlessness, anxiety, and thoughts of death or suicide. Postpartum anxiety, a "cousin" to postpartum depression seems to be gaining traction in who it impacts, affecting nearly 1 in 7 women, yet is rarely spoken about. Even if we’re not okay for a while. Also symtoms, strategies for managing postpartum anxiety. I want to stop thinking about this i don’t know why It keeps happening please make it stop. Temma, are you receiving any kind of professional help? Sometimes I’m so paralyzed by worrying over my mortality that I don’t have time or energy to appreciate the time I have here on this earth. My panic and anxiety is truly out of control. There was a father and two year old girl murdered in a small town a couple hours away from my home recently. Hello. Symptoms may begin suddenly after the new baby arrives home, or pre-existing OCD symptoms may be exacerbated by new … I’m nursing and I really don’t want to take meds because I already smoke cigarettes! It’s like you are reading my mind! What a lot to have to deal with. Medications are a good start, but really being able to sort out these feelings with a professional could be an enormous help to you. OCD can be treated. I hope one of them is near you, mama. Since my 3rd child was born (He is 6 months now), I can’t stop obsessing about bad things happening to them. I just hate that nobody understands where I am coming from when I say all of this. This can be related to anxiety or postpartum OCD…knowing if that is what you have been dealing with would help you so much. Online: Website The … Please post updates. I highly recommend therapy. You might need treatment for anxiety or OCD. ugh..I basically consider myself a PPOCD/PPA survivor at this point. All the more reason to get the treatment you need so you can identify the underlying cause of your postpartum anxiety and work to correct it. Alexis Lesa describes her constant fears of losing her husband or children while she had postpartum anxiety. This is not something I ever struggled with before. Thank you. Not sure why. They helped but I really think it comes down to a few things, mostly self control. I am afraid I won’t be able to cope with their death and I’m afraid of dying myself. I had to check on my son at least twice before I went to sleep every night, and I often found myself getting out of bed to make sure the front door was locked, even though I always lock the door behind me when I get home. You need help and I hope you can reach out for that help so you can be free of this. Thank you for reaching out to me. I hope you reach out. I’ll go into my moms room in the middle of the night when she’s sleeping and lean over in the dark to make sure she’s breathing. Don’t be embarrassed. I'm so scared that something will happen to me while she's young and she won't remember me or know how much I love her. Sometimes the fear of death is a symptom of other anxiety disorders, and sometimes it is its own standalone issue. I am so tired of this , it doesnt let me live a peacful day, a peaceful life i am anytime in alarm, i feel all the time anxios. Finding this website was a huge relief .. I’m not going crazy and maybe there is cure after all. I feel like I am loosing my mind and can’t control my feeling. Thank you for putting that out there! My hope is that each story brings awareness to those suffering that there is help. I remember growing up and being afraid of my mom dying, as well as my grandmother on my mom’s side. Of course, at the time I didn’t know this, so I just thought I was losing my mind. Each time, they are okay. That can really help to work through these kinds of feelings as well. It is consuming me and I was sure that I was feeling these things because one of us going to die soon. Having these thoughts does not make you weird–it happens to a lot of people, I promise. Thank you for all you Moms do. My doctor was supportive but coupdate tell I wasn’t myself. I have two sons, but my fears are centered on either myself or my eldest. Well I like to believe that I believe in it. I’d often think about my own death, too. God bless all of you. We all need help sometimes. I can’t sleep if I fail to do that. I hope you can get some help and find freedom from this. Jesus died once for all, for us to live forever in His return to earth. Your words provide such a good bunch of not-alone feeling. i ultimately decided to consult my professor and have started meds. I am in my mid twenties,  with a new baby,  currently dealing with some pretty bad anxiety and a phobia of death of myself or loved ones. Just acknowledge the thoughts and feelings and then move past them and you will slowly start to forget about them. I fear them going to school. Also known as death anxiety, this fear can badly impact on a person's life. I’m attached to her seriously I mother her more than she mothers me. Now I don’t have these fears! You deserve to feel better. It took mr 3 years to accept my motherhood. Been so helpful to find this site and feel not alone in what feels like a slow recovery from PPD (my daughter is 3.5) AND recognize things I hadn't realized were a part of my symptoms…like obsessive fear of loved ones dying. I am so happy I found this site. Also known as death anxiety, this fear can badly impact on a person's life. But you simply can’t stop living your life, disciplining your kids, addressing issues with your spouse etc just because of the fear of losing them. An overwhelmingly common concern is the fear of death. Maturational or situational status 3. Talk to your close one my husband is fantastic. Also i was dieting and severely exercising since 3months before all this started and had my postgraduate exams within a month of beginning of these episodes. She has two sons, and the oldest is gone now. Death is a sad thing but must happen at least once. It’s such a paralyzing fear. I hope you have been able to reach out for help. I feel afraid and obsessed with the nothingness of death. I feel like the more children you have, the worse it gets. Talking to your doctor does not mean you have to take medication. I would just want to be with them, I’m sorry for all of the pain and frustration all of you have and are going through. It’s very stressful to have the kind of constant thoughts you are having, isn’t it? Understanding the role that your fear of this monster plays in his strength (or understanding the role that thoughts play in postpartum anxiety): Anxiety, like monsters, loves when you are afraid. I keep praying but i I think I may need medication or essential oils. Now is the time for me to seek professional help. Kathy, you are not alone. My break up with my sons dad was very messy and think it may have knocked my confidence a little (he got caught out having an affair when he got accused of rape-although I don’t believe he could do such a thing and the charges were dropped that was definitely the end for us) but his father is not the most responsible parent in the world and it terrifies me that one day he’s not going to be paying attention and something awful will happen to my son. I love my kids most of anyone / anything else, but raising two very demanding twins in a foreign country, with an almost always absent father was unbearable. Some anxiety problems actually create the fear of death on their own. And for some of you new moms, and even some new dads, even if you aren’t consciously aware of how much your life has been shaken up, and even if you love every second of parenthood,  your very smart brain picks up on this massive change in your life, and becomes concerned. I feel exactly like that and struggling with such thought trying to replace thought with positive ones. With these thoughts I have to remind myself that I need to accept the things I can’t control. I want to use that energy to help people live more comfortable lives. Postpartum Anxiety. I am at my worst now, though. I still have these weird thoughts from time to time but I’ve managed to go to school. I am going through the same thing, and it seems like it is consistentlying getting worse. One time, I wanted to cry the whole night because I was thinking of my parents and what I would do if they both got hurt or something real bad. I now feel that I am not alone in my almost debilitating fears that myself, or even worse, one of my boys will die. so glad this question came your way. I’m 23 and recently had my 2nd child in September, just 18 months after my 1st. He has been the only thing to help me overcome my anxiety! A lot of stress had built over a few years. I lost my nan at ten years old, then my grandparents, then my grandad at 13. I dont want to die but i dont want to live feeling this impending doom either. But I am going to go with my gut instinct and say I need help on this one. Here, 6 women share their struggles. Before my boyfriend passed away me and my mom didn’t get along good and not really until two months ago but now I always make sure to say kind things to say and tell her I love her and sometimes I’ll just start crying because I can’t loose her. For a long time, postpartum anxiety that leads to overprotection was considered less serious, but now mental health providers recognize that it needs treatment, just like depression does. I am aware I do this, and alot of times thats the first step to getting a handle on it. I have been able to ignore it but recently it has become more consuming. Associations were also found with fear of the birth, fear of death during delivery (mother and fetus), feeling lack of control during labor and less confidence in self and medical staff. Hi my name is Kelly I have 4 children 3 with my husband who died when I was 23 and 1 with my partner now. But we must allow our body to do what it is made to do and not push away the feelings. I REMEMBER WORRYING ABOUT MY MUM WALKING HOME. It doesn’t have to be forever. Shall I seek for professional help? You provide the language for me. I’m sending you so much peace. After she was born, I had PPD and was in constant fear that she was going to die. does medication help as i feel i need something as im very over protective of my children to the point wherei only let my partner or me look after them hence why i worry about dieing incase they dont care for them like i do like makeing them brush teeth nwash habds after toilet n comb hair nall the little things ….i feel like im going insane! Aconitum Napellus is one of the best herbal remedies for depression and anxiety in Postpartum Depression patients who have a marked fear of death.The anxiety that gets worse in crowded places and while crossing the streets points towards the use of Aconitum Napellus. I just keep almost trying to find something wrong with me. I think I just got it into my head that now I’d had a baby I’d somehow fastracked my parents towards death… they’re grandparents now. So this current event is bringing out those same fears, specifically, that I am too old to have a child (I am 36), or that I will be too sick to have a child (I have some ongoing health issues that might affect my well being). I am always tired, go bed tired, wake up tired. Wow I am going through the same thing. I have to remind myself to lighten up and get back to the present moment and breathe. I have never thought about dying but now I am thinking about it at least 5 to 20 times a day. Hi. 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